One of the reasons you may suffer from premature ejaculation is by having too much friction on your penis during the intercourse. This leads to the stimulation getting way too intense and you ejaculating too early for you or your partner to truly enjoy it.
When you lessen the friction, you can enjoy the sex longer and with much higher enjoyment level than you'd had enjoyed it otherwise. Your partner will definitely appreciate it as well (and you don't have to fear being remembered as one of the "30-second" guys).
How to avoid the friction
Just like with any friction, you need something to increase the lubrication. This will make the process smoother and help with preventing the premature ejaculation.The best way to achieve this, is to simply make your partner wet. You need to keep on pleasuring your partner before and during the act to keep her wet. Not only will keeping her wet lessen the friction, it will make her want to pleasure you even more (you can thank the law of reciprocity for this).
Make foreplay last at least 10 minutes and make sure your partner is very, very wet before you start penetrative sex. Also remember to use non-penetrative techniques between sex positions to give your penis the break from stimulation it needs.
Couldn't you just use one of those shop-bought lubes to increase the lubrication?
They can be used, but that would require you to keep applying and applying it. This can be quite annoying for you and your partner. So I recommend you to use the better (and cheaper) way: make your partner soaking wet.
You will do the main work during foreplay, but you need to get her turned on even before it. You can do this by talking seductively. If it's not your first time with your partner, you probably know what kind of seductive talk gets her in the mood, but here are few tips:
- Talk slowly, so that she can feel your words
- Tell your partner how sexy and temptating she looks
- Talk descriptively how horny and turned on you feel
- So, don't just say how things are, i.e. "I'm horny"
- Your partner needs to be able to feel it herself
- Don't rush too much, create the mood step by step
- Don't start right away with "I'm horny, let's have sex" (if your partner isn't in the mood at this point herself).
- Start with light (non-sexual) touching and start progressing from there.
- You don't have to use too much time here, just remember to progress step by step. Adjust your speed based on how your partner reacts (if she gets all excited, just move on. If she doesn't seem to warm up, don't rush)
Just remember to create the right mood for this: Choose a proper place, proper timing and whatever little tricks you might have (i.e. music, lightning).
Now that your partner is getting turned on and ready for the action herself..
It's time for some foreplay.
Now it's time to put your mouth and fingers to work. If you aren't very good at using them, study some techniques and start practising them.
Remember to check how wet she is by inserting your fingers into her vagina. If she isn't really wet down there, keep on pleasing her. When you're sure of her being wet enough, you can start the penetration. Just don't dry her up by pumping really hard and fast straight from the beginning. Star slow and steady. This way she willeven wetter and will also help with you to keeping your stimulation levels under control.
How To Make Girls Beg for More
This was one of the techniques used to help with premature ejaculation. This definitely help you with, but I want you to remember that this was truly just one of many. Avoiding premature ejaculation requires you to know many techniques, since there are several causes for it (the concept of friction was one of them).
If you want to truly be the guy who can make girls beg for more sex, you need to master this skill. When I say begging, I literally mean that. There are so many guys out there who last only 5 minutes or less which leads to girls wanting (badly) those guys who can actually make them feel good.
Well, those less-than-5-minute-guys are usually the guys whose girlfriends cheat on them with the rare few guys who can actually pleasure them.
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I have read it myself and it has improved my sex life SO much that you wouldn't believe ( or actually maybe you will you experience the improvement yourself). It has actual how-to step-by-step guidance on each technique and background information on exactly why they work, so it is not one of those 500-page books on the history and science behind ejaculating prematurely and leaving you with the question "So.. How do you cure it?"
If you want to read more about my experiences with the book, you can start here:
